Below are the bullet points from an article I found in some of my writing files. I was living in Chicago (2003) and was just about to publish Skin Care A to Z. My publicist at the time mentioned “O” Magazine was looking for skin care professionals to write about their point-of-view on Radiance—what makes a woman radiant. I didn't make it into the magazine (wa, wa) but I do want to share some of the thoughts I had back then, which are still true for me today.
- The source of true radiance is that inner knowing that you are perfect just exactly the way you are.
- I believe when you look at a woman and see her “glowing” you are looking at a woman who, perhaps, does take good care of her physical body. But surely this is a woman who has developed that core, inner knowing that she is a beautiful loving being. This, more than good skin, is what radiance is all about.
- Genetics, nutrition, and sun exposure all play a part in how healthy you look. But without self-acceptance and peace within, your ability to radiate true health is diminished.
- Because of my profession, I am in the unique position to see women up close and personal who are aging—and who look fabulous! They may not feel this way about themselves, but I see it. Aging is truly a marvelous thing to watch.
- Aging is multifaceted. It is not simply acquiring lines and wrinkles. Aging is the miracle of life evolving and unfolding. How you age is primarily, or at least initially, in your mind. What you choose to focus on will affect how you age. If you focus on the lines and wrinkles, neglecting to see the maturation of who you are as a person, you'll miss out, in my opinion, on the opportunity to see the blessings that come with age.
- Radiance is a combination of outer health and inner beauty. Inner beauty is attainable; it is developing a core belief—a knowing—that you are a perfect human being, and beautiful just because.
- Keeping things in balance is necessary for maintaining health. Proper rest and relaxation; minimizing or eliminating smoking, drinking alcohol, and eating poor-quality food; drinking lots of water; taking good care of your skin; keeping direct sunlight off your face; and finding quiet time to reflect on the day's events will all help you to achieve true radiance.
- Radiance is your inner strength reflected outward through your healthy mind and body.
Even when I was a fledgling aesthetician in my 20s, I knew for sure that I was not going to let aging get me down. And now, in my 50s, I continue the practice I began all those years ago. First, I do not say negative things about either my wrinkles or my self. Initially I had to catch myself—a lot—when I would go down the path of negative self-talk. But now, and this is absolutely true, when I look in the mirror on a day I don't look so hot, I just let out a giggle and say “I'm 53! This is what 53 looks like today!—Not bad!!!” And I say a prayer of love for myself and move on with my day. This way of being didn't come overnight; I honed it over time—and you can too. It's never too late to start changing the way you talk to yourself and therefore see yourself.
Today is a good day to start :+)